Friday, 1 June 2018

Wedding suprise!

We invited our friends to Yoyogi park to have a picnic engagement party. There we surprised them, by throwing the actual wedding ceremony. We had gotten married in the city hall at Bunkyo the day before.


We were incredibly lucky as the cherry blossom in Yoyogi park was popping on the day of the wedding, and the atmosphere was wonderful. Some of my friends are annoyed that we made it a surprise, because they missed the event, but I didn't want people to dress up - I wanted it to be easy going and it was perfect. It was spontaneous, clumsy, alive and unique. I was lucky enough to have two of my cousins there. Jason came down from Sendai for the occasion, and my cousin Suzannah happened to be in Tokyo on holiday. She really made the day special and was a complete delight to see. Not to mention she brought some delicious champagne which put me in the perfect celebratory mood.

The ceremony was hosted by Josh and Chris, with a lot of help from Ayumi, JJ and Joelle. I had written out a script for them, and it ran more-or-less smoothly. The event was filmed on Facebook live so Matt's family could see it in Brazil, with our Portuguese friend Hugo translating live. This meant I have been able to watch back over the video, and it makes me cry every time.

After the ceremony, we partied in the park, we kept drinking and had loads of fun.

It was a stressful few days leading up to the wedding. My family had decided to fly over for the occasion, well, my parents and Joe - because Chez had to work. Luckily I had finished my job a week beforehand, so there was a little less pressure for time. It was all a bit intense as my brother hadn't actually met Matt before, so was feeling skeptical of the quick decision. Needless to say, he didn't give Matt the easiest time - but in the end I think they were able to see eye to eye.

My brother ended up sticking around Japan for 3 weeks, so I think he was able to get to know Matt a little better, I am hoping he feels happier about the situation. I am really looking forward to moving back, so that my family and friends can get to know Matt, it's been a really important factor for me.

I feel really good about it though. Marrying Matt has made me feel like the part of my life where I was focused on searching for love is finally over, and now I can devote myself to other things, with the security and happiness of a stable and wonderful relationship. Spending my late-teenage years and my early twenties thinking about boys and dating, and wondering if I'll ever find the one was a fun time, but I was way too consumed with it. I'd like my life to be more than that. I think I was able to marry Matt quite fast, because after all that time focused on pursuing love, I knew exactly what I was looking for, and could recognize it on a deep level. I was lucky enough to find it.

I love Matt so much, and I love spending every day with him laughing, learning and overcoming the challenges of life. We've now been married two months, and I'm slowly getting used to having him as my husband. It's an all-round beautiful thing.




















Karaoke after-party



Tuesday, 8 May 2018

So far

This year so far...

I will say that since leaving my job, I've never been so busy.

Got engaged.
Work leaving party.
Apply for fellowship
Quit job.
Fellowship application refusal.
Got married.
Family here.
Exceptional talent visa application.
Throw dinner party.
Niijima.
Moving out.
Preparing for N2.
Selling everything.
Sorting through everything.
Friends visit.
More friends visit.
Booking flights to London.
Booking flights to Atlanta.
Making post cards to send to friends.
Falling into YouTube holes.
Dodgeball tournament.
Organise trip to Shikoku.
Hula hooping.
Sending postcards.
Getting the visa.
Submitting passport.
Immigration office.
Sony VIP headquarters tour.
Arrange temporary accommodation at friends.

... we're somehow pulling it off. Stay tuned.



Friday, 27 April 2018

Stamps

Today i got an allergic reaction from licking 7 stamps.
My neck, chest and arms went red and were covered in tiny bumps. Itchy ouchy.
There was also an incident with some flies on the balcony. I won't go into it... but let's just say I had to be a hero.
Matt infiltrated the book I'm reading. He offered to read me my book to help me sleep one night ... he got into it, and now I'm not allowed to continue reading it unless he's there. The book is Tokyo Vice.
I'm on a train and this sleeping guy next to me is way too close.

Wednesday, 11 April 2018

Leaving my job and thinking about the future

My last day of work was March 16th.

I honestly don't enjoy going around and saying goodbye to people - it feels so serious and official. The good part was that getting married and moving back to the UK with Matt was a very legit (and honest) reason to quit, so I had a happy, well-honoured goodbye.
Nothing cringey and awkward like when everyone knows you're leaving because you hate it there and want to see them all burn in hell.

I had a lot of free time in my last few weeks at work. After I told my boss I would be leaving in January, he stopped assigning me much work, so I had a lot of time to ponder.

I am still (and probably always will be) somewhat lost and unsure of what to do with myself. I realized that so much of my twenties has been spent thinking about boys and my friends, and going out, listening to music and having fun. Now finally, I have at least my social and love lives figured out, and really need to focus more on developing some skills I can be proud of, and finding a career path to follow. It's a little embarrassing that I'm so behind on that front, certainly taking a (what will be) 5-year long "gap year/life" in Japan hasn't helped - but hey, I've definitely had enough great experiences here to know it wasn't a total waste of time.

The daunting thing is that many of my friends and family members who were in the same life-confusion boat as me when I left Japan, have really figured things out over the last few years. I am proud and excited for them - but I really do feel that I lack the "passion project" to push me into my own.

Trying to understand what I'm passionate about and what I should focus my energy on, remains one of my hardest challenges. I envy those who know their "thing" - I wish I knew mine.

Friday, 2 March 2018

Taiwan snap snaps part X

More Taiwan:
We found a farmers market in Taipei
Nice night market
That place which inspired Spirited Away


That town were people send lanterns into the sky. Seems cool but careless







When Matt burnt his entire mouth from a sausage on a stick
Ok, so apparently if you write NY people think 'New York', I was supposed to write NYE

Hung over dimsum

NYE celebrations 2018 at Taipei 101 - we had a sweet spot!


Matt preparing for his backup career as a miner


Taiwan snap snaps Shifen waterfall

Yes, it was rainy and foggy the whole time we were in Taiwan. But we made the most of it OK?







Too much posing?



lil'sebastian




Life is but a dream my dear